Separation of the Internets

Sometimes I think it'd be a good idea to seperate the internets. Create one with porn on it and one without. I know it's been touched on before, and discussed by some in length. The problem is that the undertaking would be incredibly huge. Sure, some of it would be fairly straightforward. Some sites make it pretty darn obvious what their goal is. But the question comes when we look at those sites that like to straddle the line - portraying a "family-friendly" image on the exterior, but harboring adult content just below the surface.
With the right know-how, porn can be found in many otherwise "safe" places on the internet. A photography site, a search site, a writing site. All can look completely innocent on the surface, and you could visit them a thousand times and never know of the deep and unsavory undercurrents running directly alongside of you, or just under a thin surface.
My point is not to encourage you to go out and find it. It's unhealthy, and destructive, and it ruins lives. Porn affects the people who watch it, and the people who make it. The people in those movies are the equivilant to those giant foam character costumes you see in parades and at public events. They Look like they're thrilled to be there, when really the person inside is miserable, wanting to get out and waiting for that time, and thankful the face on the outside of the character doesn't show it.
No, seperation of porn and non-porn internets will take a decision in your own head. It'll take a decision in my own head. Choose to do what is right. No filter or seperation or blocker will keep porn away from someone determined to get it. The choice lies inside.

A Quick Note

Just a quick note to say that I'm still here, still breathing, and will return. Finding time to blog is difficult lately, as I make time for many many other things first, but getting on the site again was ina small way like coming home. It feels comfortable, and makes me remember some things. See you soon.

--Matt

Top Muskegon Blogger

Could I be the top Muskegon blogger?

Blogger has a cool feature whereby if you view a blogger's profile, then click on his city (like Muskegon) you'll find list of other people who use blogger in that city. When a person posts a new blog post or updates their profile, they move to the top of that list. So when I post this, I'm officially the Top Muskegon Blogger .... hehe

Other updates:

• Kelly is about a year away from being able to sit for her RN state exams. The classes are hard, but she's gotten good comments from instructors and coworkers. She's going to be a great nurse. She's also started making fabric crafts and opened up a shop on Etsy where you can buy things. She's really excited about it and wants to expand it further, but we're waiting for her first sale. Stop by and let us know what you think! (the address is http://tennisoncreations.etsy.com/ if the link doesn't work)

• Brooke finished up her girl scout events and meetings for the year. This was her first year and she really enjoyed it. I've been pleasantly surprised by it as well. It seems to be a really good group for her to be involved in. Next up is getting her involved in a sport or other activity. Sign-ups are happening this summer for cheerleading, but I have my reservations about that. Soccer and T-ball are also options we're considering.

• Ethan is now, and potty training. Most of the time he's good about telling us when he has to go, but some days he doesn't at all. We're also STILL waiting for him to tell us when he has to poop. He hasn't done that on the potty at all yet (and we all know how much fun those pull-ups are to change). He's also just seeming much older and more mature to me. It's like he's recently grown 4 inches and doubled his vocabulary and comprehension. Very cool, but makes me realize it's going fast!

• I'm enjoying work more lately. I'm traveling during the day about 4 days a week and home every night. I work with customers and sales agents throughout the day and enjoy it. For a while I was doing sales trainings and I really enjoyed doing that, but I'd hate the regular overnight travel that being a trainer would come with. In my spare time I've learned quite a bit about creating websites using css. There was a lot about websites that I forgot, and much has changed too, but I'm fairly with it for now ;). I'm enjoying the summer, and bicycling, and being outside. It's going too fast though! On top of its break-neck speed, all of my auxiliary interests get in the way of relaxing outside and enjoying it too...but it's who I am.

So now you're up-to-date on what's going on with Muskegon's Top Blogger ....hehe

Oh yeah, my sister is going to have a baby in December or January. It'll be strange being an uncle, though my other brothers have had that title for 7 years now. She and the baby don't have an easy road ahead, but with God's grace they can make it through.

Coffee in Winter

     Today's post comes to you from the Grand Traverse Pie Company in Muskegon, MI. I'm sitting on a stool looking out one of their wall-sized windows, watching the snow fall. Today's snow is the light and fluffy variety. It's the kind that gently falls to the earth, unlike the sleet that crashes down as quickly as possible. :)

     Sleet comes down the way that I ski. I like to downhill ski. Once I took lessons on how to ski, and it turns out there is more to it than just pointing the skis down the hill and staying on your feet. You have to learn how to move back and forth, and stay in control. Yet, to this day I still prefer to get to the top of the hill, point the tips straight down the hill and move as quickly as possible to the bottom of the slope.

     I love the speed of downhill skiing. In fact, I'm a pretty big fan of speed in general. I think it would be awesome to travel somewhere with no speed limits just to see how fast my car can go and what it feels like. Darn speed limits.

     The snow is letting up now. The store is fairly busy. The coffee is still good - getting a little colder though.

     Trying to find the motivation to get to work. I like what I do, but it doesn't get me out of bed in the morning. I desire to be one of those people who is passionate about their work. I don't know if that requires a change in me or a change in my work. I'm certainly passionate about some things. I'm becoming more passionate about communicating. I work for a "Communications" company, but honestly, they are not the best at communicating in the sense that I'm passionate about.

     I'm passionate about quality video. I'm passionate about training people. I've gotten to train people before, and I think my passion shows through, and makes me a better teacher. See, I'm kinda addicted to information. When I'm assigned something new, I want to learn everything I can about it. The thorough knowledge I gain puts me in a position to help people. I help people understand the thing I'm good at. It could be a product, or service, or compay, or idea.

 
     Here's an example: last night our dryer broke. Actually, I suppose you could say I broke the dryer. I was cleaning the inside of it after a red pen found its un-timely demise in the last load of laundry. I was turning the drum by hand and something snapped inside. Now, I like to fix things like that myself. They have a system, and I believe that the average consumer should be able to understand and fix their own appliances.

     Long story short, I found the problem - the belt had slipped of the motor. BUT there is a piece laying in the bottom that is not attached to anything. I don't immediately know where it goes and I can't figure it out. I'll look up a manual online today to figure it out and get it fixed. But I don't just stop at fixing the problem. My mind is constantly absorbing extra information while the dryer is apart. I'm looking at the felt the drum rides on. I'm noticing the setup and positioning of the heating element. I noted how many btu's the gas burner was, and how it was shielded. I even looked at the extra holes in the chassis - how one body could be used for several models by reconfiguring where the panels are bolted.

     Some of this information will come in handy later and some will not. I take it all in because I enjoy it though. I want to be able to understand and visualize it when a friend has a question with their dryer. I'm not going to hang a dryer repair sign outside my house, but it's handy to know. It's my nature.

     Not sure if there is a point to all of this :) Maybe it will encourage you to evaluate what you are passionate about. Maybe it just helps you to get a better idea of what makes me tick (scary thought) ;). Maybe it's just the ramblings of a young man in a coffee shop on a winter's day.

     It's snowing again. Time to warm up the coffee. Then, my journey begins.

Busy Winter

Wow! Things are busy in my neck of the woods! Can't you tell by the crazy heavy amount of posts? :D

But seriously, things have been getting busy. This week I have plans 4 out of 5 weeknights, I'm getting up early 2 out of 5 workdays, and the weekend is filling up pretty well too. Of course, if i didn't have things to do, I'd find plenty to do around home, some stuff that I need to do and a lot of stuff that I would just want to do :). That's ok, busy can be good. Importantly though, busy is good as long as there is a defined time of rest, and over the last 6-12 months, I've become MUCH better about taking a time each week exclusively for the purpose of rest.

It makes a huge difference to rest. Rest is different for each person. Some need to sleep, some need to lay in a hammock, some need to do a project they've been meaning to. yes, physical activity can be rest for some. I often fall into that category. Sometimes we run so much that just setting aside time to work on a rpoject I've been meaning to complete is EXTREMELY restful. In addition, when I get the project done, it no longer hangs over my head as something needing to be done, and thus, rest continues on through the week. Instead of being concerned over something needing to be done, but not having time for it, I can rest in the fact that it is done.

Well, I certainly don't intend to be long-winded on this post, so I'll end right after the following tidbit:

The parking lot to my office at 7:58am:

The parking lot to my office at 8:11am:

Winter is wonderful, isn't it?

P.s. - in all due respect, I'm usually in the 8:15a group. Thanks Brett!

Election 2008 - McCain vs. Obama

Photo Courtesy Dean Terry

Anyone else tired of the election yet? I'm very excited that we only have one week left! Twitter has been almost unbearable some days, especially if a debate is on.

I know who I'm voting for, but it hasn't come easily. I've had to do a lot of thinking, and consider both sides. I know that there is a clear choice for me now, but if my guy doesn't win, it'll be interesting to watch how it turns out.

I live in an economically depressed town, and that tends to sway voters a certain direction. They're looking in the wrong direction. And those who are looking at the other candidate, they're looking in the wrong direction too.

There's nothing wrong with voting. We live in a democratic society, and if we have the ability to influence who is elected to the highest office, we should partake in that liberty. But they all tell us what we want to hear. they'll all make promises they can't keep. Compromises will be made, and we won't even anticipate what's coming in the next four years. Either way, we can't look to the president to save us.

Vote for who you think the best candidate is, and then look to the only source of hope.

Did you really answer the question?

I was listening to a radio ad for a university today. They asked "If you could do something to make your life better right now, would you?" And then they launched into a sales pitch for their university ("call the university today to sign up for fall classes, we have...<insert college fare>..."). Then they finished up with a call-to-action something like "call today and register".

There is something very subtle in that commercial. They begin by asking a question, and then go directly into telling us about their product. Problem is, they never really say that their product is the answer to the question. It's like this:

Commercial: "Would you like to know how to bake cookies?"

Me: "Heck yeah! I likes me some cookies!"

Commercial: "OK! We teach math lessons better than anyone else. Call us today for more information!"

Me: "Wha?"


In my example, the business has a great service, and many people could benefit from math lessons. But math lessons don't answer the question "Would you like to know how to bake cookies", nor do they provide a solution if you DO want to know how to bake cookies.

That brings up another point with asking a question at the beginning of a commercial - like what if the answer is not as you anticipated it? Of course it is assumed that a reasonable person would want to make their life better. If a person will do anything to make that happen is the real question. But the purpose of this post is to point out that they don't tie it all together. If you're going to ask me if I want to know how to make cookies, you'd better explain to me how you can help me know how to make cookies.

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